What is Masculine and Feminine Energy? (2023)

As someone begins to explore the attraction dynamics of romantic relationships, they’ll often find themselves asking, “What is Masculine and Feminine Energy?” They ask this question because they’ve heard these apparent buzz words floating around in conversations about love, sex, and attraction. Yes, you might hear them more frequently now, and they’re anything but buzz words. These two specific and potent words carry a depth of meaning that most don’t begin to comprehend. Worse yet, these two words that play such a significant role in not just the chemistry and passion in conscious relationships, but also the entire expression of humanity, are often quite misunderstood and therefore judged for something they are not.

The definitions of these two words have also evolved as our understanding of gender and sex has evolved. To be clear the words masculine and feminine are not synonymous with sex nor gender. Masculine and feminine energies interplay with, and sometimes but not always, correlate with, gender or sex, but they are most certainly not the same thing. We must take note that we are speaking about energies here and not about tangible forms or anatomy.

We define masculine and feminine energies qualitatively, or better yet, experientially. As you deepen your understanding of these two words you’ll find that you’ll be able to feel them quite quickly and quite distinctly.

Before we dive into describing the difference between masculine and feminine energy, it will serve to note that these two words of Latin origin parallel the meaning of the words yang and yin, respectively, which have Chinese origins in the third century BCE or before.

Considering the definitions of yin and yang, they are considered universal opposite and complementary energies or forces. These opposing, yet joint energies, together actually make up the entirety of existence. One cannot exist without the other. As one decreases, the other increases. Together they create harmony and balance.

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Let’s get more specific…

What is the Difference between Masculine and Feminine Energy?

Masculine or yang energy is the active, focused, driven, penetrating energy in the world. Yin is the passive, boundless, flowing, receptive energy. We’ll go deeper into more qualities of each energy in a moment, and for now, notice how through this initial description, you can already see the contrasting opposite natures of the two words.

The active generative nature of masculine energy produces results while the passive creative energy of the feminine attracts matter and experiences. The Law of Attraction has its roots in feminine energy. Feminine energy magnetizes or draws things and experiences to us. It is the effortless energy, while masculine energy, is the effortful, make-things-happen, get-shit-done energy. Masculine energy sucks it up, so to speak, and drives through the obstacles. Driving to a goal can be completely conscious, kind, and respectful, and that is also a time when the unconscious, or shadow side, of the masculine can show up. But as you’ll see in a moment, masculine energy is certainly not all shadow. To be clear, in and of itself, masculinity is not toxic.

Another powerful comparison between masculine and feminine energy has to do with emotions and logic. Masculine energy has a linear, rational, precise expression to it. Masculine energy brings structure to the world in the form of routines, discipline, processes, procedures and even rules. Feminine energy by contrast brings flow, spontaneity, creativity, and emotionality to life. It’s unrestrained, boundless, wild, and sometimes chaotic. Feminine energy is the heart of art.

You cannot plan art. Art, in its greatest expression, comes from pure inspiration. It flows through the artist. You simply can not be in your masculine energy and create true art. Comparatively, you cannot be in your feminine energy and perform brain surgery. Notice that these two activities have nothing to do with the gender or sex of the artist or surgeon, but the success of their endeavors depends highly on the energy they bring to that activity.

All of that brings us directly to a sexual aspect of these two energies.

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For feminine beings who love masculine beings, they are most definitely aware of the single-focused nature of the masculine. This is the masculine quality that has him not hear you when you are talking to him, because he’s so focused on the task at hand. While it can drive her crazy when his focus is on the TV, a book, or the computer, she can revel in the single-focused deep presence of the masculine when its eyes are fully riveted, penetrating her soul, and driving her heartrate up as she feels like she can barely move in his gaze.

Similarly, I took a phone call from a potential client years ago who was describing what he desired in a relationship. He shared that he desired a woman who was completely sexually uninhibited. He wanted her wild and fully expressed in her sexuality. He continued a few minutes later saying, but I don’t want a woman who is emotional. Here’s the challenge, gentlemen, or better said, masculine beings. If you are attracted to a woman who is feminine, or any predominantly feminine being, you have to embrace the fullness of femininity. You can’t have one part of feminine energy like wild and free and not also embrace the emotional, unrestrained and chaotic side.

Now, let’s be fair, this is where the feminine can be truly conscious and honoring in her uninhibited wildness, her free emotional expression, and it can also be where feminine energy becomes an unconscious, or shadow expression. Although in its shadow expression, the feminine can hurt partners, that again does not make the feminine, in and of itself, toxic. To reiterate, masculine energy is not toxic and feminine energy is not toxic, but both can be unconscious, unkind and even harmful at times.

Let’s look at a few more quick comparisons between masculine and feminine energy.

Feminine energy is collaborative and cooperative while masculine energy is independent and competitive.

The masculine plans. The feminine goes with the flow.

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The masculine has boundaries. It contains. The feminine by nature is boundless, infinite. It can not be contained.

The masculine controls while the feminine surrenders. Without labeling these as light or dark, conscious or shadow, in the extremes the masculine dominates while the feminine submits. These energies by definition are not good or bad. When it comes to sex, these expressions show up as ravishment – masculine ravishes while the feminine is ravished. In completely consensual love making, many feminine beings are deeply aroused by the ravishing, even controlling, energy of the masculine. Take hot, steamy against-the-wall kissing – the feminine is against the wall, the masculine is facing the wall. The feminine might enjoy having her arms held as she is pleasured by the masculine.

When looking at a person, say watching someone walk across the room, you can feel masculine and feminine energy in your body. Watching a deeply feminine woman, for example, you’ll likely feel as if you can see an invisible light surrounding her, or in other words, you’ll see and feel, and likely be captivated by her radiance. It’s as if your attention is inexplicably drawn to her. In contrast, a fully embodied masculine being who walks across the room will give you a feeling of knowing, a knowing without knowing, that this person knows who he is, where he’s going and what he’s committed to, even though you may consciously know nothing of the sort. In this case, it’s as if his mere presence commands your attention.

What is a Mixture of Yin and Yang Energy?

While it is true that we each have a mixture of yang, masculine and yin, feminine energy within us, one of the ways our misunderstandings of these two energies wreaks havoc in love lives and sex lives occurs when these energies mix unconsciously and inauthentically. The problem in our romantic lives, and truly our whole lives, happens when they are not in harmony, when one is repressed or underused, while the other is over-amped or overused.

Many think the antidote is trying to balance masculine and feminine energy, but that only makes the problem worse. We want each energy to express authentically within us. For most people that means that one energy will be stronger or more predominant than the other. When we try to balance we actually neutralize the polarity, the attractive force, of the two energies, which in turn is why so many dating relationships and marriages end up in the friend zone.

In dating, for example, we’ll see this show up with a strong independent woman (who underneath is truly feminine at her core) walking around disappointed, asking, “Where are all the strong men?” She wants a man who embodies more masculine energy than she does. However, because of the out of balance mixture of masculine and feminine energies within her, she ends up frustrated, blaming the lack of polarity on men, when the true cause of her dating dilemmas arises from her own out-of-balance, and even unconsciously inauthentic, relationship with the masculine and feminine within herself.

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In masculine beings, particularly, for example, a masculine man may tone down his own genuine masculinity so he’s never perceived as that guy, never coming close to what he imagines toxic masculinity to be. This man can experience himself as the nice guy who finishes last, who never seems to get the girl. These men will again often find themselves friend-zoned, with great female companions, but not a hotly passionate (and deeply in love) lover.

Masculine vs Feminine Energy

Too many today think in terms of masculine vs feminine energy, instead of focusing on their complementary and intertwined infinite nature. This thinking immediately puts the two energies at odds with each other. It perpetuates the old battle of the sexes.

Now, there is no question that masculine and feminine energy, as well as male and female bodies, are different from each other. The differences between them are not a problem. However, thinking that one is better than the other, or that one is more powerful than the other, or that one is toxic and the other isn’t, does deep damage to our psyches, our lives, our relationships. Yes, that includes relationships between dates, lovers, and spouses, but also relationships between fathers and daughters, mothers and sons, and between countries, cultures, races and religions. It even plays out in our businesses, as much as our corporate HR directors might want us to believe it doesn’t. You simply can’t take the masculine and feminine out of us. We would have a much healthier, and happier, society, with more effective businesses, and much better romantic relationships and family dynamics, if we remembered that masculine and feminine energy complement and support each other. Always. Everywhere. From the boardroom to the bedroom and everywhere in between.

When there is a deep understanding of the masculine and feminine within, we’ll realize that there is a deep communion between the two, that they depend on each other for their fullness and power.

To understand this in more depth, looking at the yin-yang symbol, you’ll see that the white, yang side of the symbol has a full enclosed circle of black, yin energy within it. The black, yin side has a fully enclosed circle of white, yang energy within it. This shows us that the ancients knew that these two energies had to interplay in order to experience wholeness and ultimate fulfillment. In other words, we could say that the masculine cannot be fully embodied, fully expressed, fully empowered without the feminine. More specifically, the potency of the masculine depends wholly on the embodiment of the feminine within and in support of the masculine.

The same is true for the feminine. The feminine cannot expand into her fullest embodied expression, her greatest power, without claiming, owning, and expressing her yang masculine energy as well. It’s important to notice that the yang, masculine energy comes from within her natural yin energy. This is a distinct contrast to how so many authentically feminine women today allow their internal yang energy to dominate and override, their innate femininity, imagining that’s what they need to do to survive and thrive.

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This is actually just yet another way we perpetuate the battle of masculine vs feminine. In this case, it’s an internal battle within ourselves rather than an external battle between two or more people. Either way, we will all be served in our hearts, our health, our happiness, and our sexuality if we make peace with these two natural energies.

They will heal us. They will heal our relationships. They will even heal our bodies when we understand their authentic nature and expression within us and between us – both in the bedroom and in the boardroom.


What is Masculine and Feminine Energy? ›

Masculine energy is about doing, it's action-oriented, whereas feminine energy is about being, and creative intuition. In the tantric world, the moon is associated with feminine energy, cooling quality, the color white, the element of water, and the intuitive processes.

How do you explain masculine and feminine energy? ›

Masculine energy is characterized by DOING and achieving and is molded by logic and reason. The feminine is more intuitive, oriented towards receiving and allowing, and characterized by BEING. When these energies are balanced, we experience a greater sense of harmony and fulfillment.

What is your masculine energy? ›

Masculine energy is the side of your being that is responsible for taking action. This originates in the thinking process. In order to act, we need to decide. In order to decide, we need confidence in our decision making process and in our ability to follow through on our decision.

What is masculine and feminine energy in psychology? ›

Masculine Energy, Feminine Energy

Some masculine energy traits are ambitious, purposeful, directive, stable, and steady. These traits are often associated with the business world, completing tasks, protecting the family, and moving forward in life. Feminine energy is fluid, adaptable, receptive, and open.

What are signs of feminine energy? ›

signs of high feminine energy:
  • You are nurturing and compassionate.
  • You are affectionate.
  • Your intuition is your guide.
  • You are magnetic.
  • You are attractive.
  • You are warm and welcoming.
  • You are sensual.
  • You take good care of yourself.

What does masculine energy look like? ›

The masculine energy is stable and more predictable. Its strengths are willpower, clarity, and focus. The masculine energy likes to create structures and rules, so it knows how to apply logic correctly. Another way to look at masculine energy is as knowledge, whereas the feminine is knowing.

What makes a woman masculine? ›

Yet, the qualities that masculine women possess—confidence, assertiveness, independence, and daring—are not scientifically or biologically male attributes. Rather, these qualities are constructed as being masculine even though they are commonly found in women.

How do I activate my feminine energy? ›

Stretch, dance, run - whatever kind of movement you enjoy - just let your body freely move and get that energy flowing. Feed your senses - Feed yourself a delicious and nurturing meal, listen to moving music, go to an art exhibit, or even just set out some fresh flowers.

What is a healthy feminine energy? ›

Feminine energy traits are affiliated with nurturing, love, receptivity, compassion, and care. This 'being' energy is the polar opposite of masculine energy, which revolves around 'doing.

What is masculine energy in a relationship? ›

Masculine energies in a relationship create a constant power struggle between the two partners. Both want to be in charge, both want to be the decision-makers, and both want to have things their way!

What is a healthy masculine energy? ›

Masculine energy is about taking action and making things happen. In relationships, masculine energy is about being assertive and taking charge. It is about taking responsibility for your own actions rather than blaming others for your mistakes or failures.

What traits are considered masculine? ›

Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.

When a man has too much feminine energy? ›

On the other hand, when the feminine energy in you is in excess, you can be too sheltering toward others. You may feel responsible for the well-being of others. You may be too empathetic, and even overly forgiving of others and your boundaries. You may feel content to the extreme where you don't set new goals.

How do you tell if a woman is in her masculine energy? ›

7 Signs of masculine energy in a woman:
  1. She is ambitious and driven.
  2. She is the boss.
  3. She is independent.
  4. She is logical and analytical.
  5. She is assertive.
  6. She is competitive.
  7. She is tough.

What is dark feminine energy? ›

Dark feminine energy is the “shadow” side of the divine feminine, which includes subconscious thoughts, emotional impulses, and primal instincts. While some consider dark feminine traits to be undesirable or aggressive, they aren't inherently “bad” or “evil.”

What is feminine energy in a relationship? ›

Feminine energy in a relationship is the ability to empathize, prioritize your feelings, and communicate well with your spouse. These are wonderful qualities that create a happy, satisfying relationship.

How do I tap into my masculine energy? ›

How to awaken the divine masculine within.
  1. Use affirmations. ...
  2. Take risks with confidence. ...
  3. Start where you are. ...
  4. Work with masculine teachers, archetypes, and deities. ...
  5. Less internalization, more action. ...
  6. Heal your relationship to the masculine. ...
  7. Stand up for yourself:
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What are the 5 laws of feminine power? ›

These include the 5 Feminine Power Virtues: Presence, Authenticity, Sensuality, Spirituality and Gratitude.

What is unhealthy masculine energy? ›

Traits of toxic or unhealthy masculinity can include: Unconditional physical toughness. Physical aggression, fear of emotions. Discrimination against people that aren't heterosexual.

What traits make a woman feminine? ›

Traits such as nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness, and being emotional, kind, helpful, devoted, and understanding have been cited as stereotypically feminine.

What is it called when a girl is masculine? ›

Androgyne: An androgynous individual. Androgynous: Typically used to describe a person's appearances or clothing as having elements of both femininity and masculinity.

What happens when you step into your feminine energy? ›

Embracing your feminine energy can allow you to connect with your mind and body, and explore what makes you unique. What does it mean to embrace your feminine energy? To truly understand, you need to look inward. Explore what it is that gives you energy.

What is the power of feminine energy? ›

Divine Feminine Energy is the powerful force that is responsible for all traits to do with creativity, connection, empathy, intuition, nurture and vulnerability. Like the flow of a river, feminine energy is constantly moving, rippling and changing directions to flow through its surroundings.

How to attract men with feminine energy? ›

  1. Show him your playful side. One of the first things you can do to radiate feminine energy to attract a man is to be playful. ...
  2. Talk with emotions. Another way to radiate feminine energy to attract a man is to speak with emotions and feelings. ...
  3. Receive graciously. ...
  4. Stay mysterious. ...
  5. Use your body language. ...
  6. Let yourself be pursued.

When a man is more feminine? ›

While subjective in its description, femininity in men refers to someone who possesses traits that would be considered more feminine than masculine; this can range from having high emotional intelligence, taking proper care of oneself, or filling roles that aren't considered to be conventionally masculine.

What are traits of toxic masculinity? ›

Top 10 Toxic Masculinity behaviors
  • Being stoic.
  • Being promiscuous.
  • Championing heterosexuality as the unalterable norm.
  • Being violent.
  • Being dominant.
  • Sexual aggression towards women.
  • Not displaying emotion.
  • Not being a feminist ally.

What does a masculine man do in a relationship? ›

Some accepted traits for a person who responds in a masculine way are strength, morale, endurance, and knowledge. People who live this way tend to strive to provide their partner with safety, security, comfort, and warmth, all while providing excitement and romance.

What are the 4 types of masculinity? ›

Connell suggests four types of masculinities: hegemonic, complicit, subordinate and marginalized as positions to one another.

What is an example of toxic masculinity? ›

Toxic masculinity praises men for having multiple sexual partners while expressing disgust at women who do the same. Refusing to help with household duties. Toxic masculinity rejects roles traditionally considered “women's work.” Toxically masculine men often refuse to participate in these household duties.

What are typical feminine and masculine traits? ›

For example, girls and women are generally expected to dress in typically feminine ways and be polite, accommodating, and nurturing. Men are generally expected to be strong, aggressive, and bold. Every society, ethnic group, and culture has gender role expectations, but they can be very different from group to group.

How do you fix masculine and feminine energy? ›

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  1. Kill your fear. According to Sheila, the first step is killing fear. ...
  2. Reframe femininity. ...
  3. Practice self-love and self-care. ...
  4. Connect with your feminine self in a lucid dream. ...
  5. Heal your heart chakra. ...
  6. Surrender. ...
  7. Develop intuition. ...
  8. Activate your core.
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What is a strong masculine energy in a woman? ›

Woman with too much masculine energy shows excessive masculine energy traits such as competitiveness, aggressiveness, and dominance. She is often very independent, goal-oriented, and directive. She is usually not very emotional or expressive and can be quite harsh and unyielding.

What masculine traits attract a woman? ›

11 Masculine traits women love in men
  • Confidence is King. Confidence is the quintessential masculine trait. ...
  • Independence is manly. Masculin men are fiercely independent. ...
  • Responsibility is masculine energy. ...
  • Honesty makes a man. ...
  • Purpose is what drives a masculine man. ...
  • Kindness shows the heart of masculinity. ...
  • Generosity. ...
  • Courage.
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How can I be feminine and seductive? ›

These five tips that can help you feel confident in your body so you can be your sensual, seductive and sexy self:
  1. Walk with confidence. The way you walk can tell a lot about the level of your self-esteem and confidence. ...
  2. Practice some feminine or seductive dance. ...
  3. Love your body. ...
  4. Practice self-care rituals. ...
  5. Sleep nude.

What celebs have dark feminine energy? ›

Releasing dark feminine energy can be a first step in moving from "victim" to agent of change, becoming someone who can claim her desires and needs of whatever nature they may be. Models to look up to include Alexa Demie, Lily Rose Depp, Monica Bellucci, Angelina Jolie, Rihanna and Megan Fox.

What celebrities have dark feminine energy? ›

Other celebrities who embody dark feminine energy and frequently flaunt dark feminine makeup include Jenna Ortega, Julia Fox, and Halsey. And while Gigi Hadid often displays light feminine energy, Bella Hadid represents dark feminine energy.

How do you explain feminine energy? ›

Contrary to masculine energy, feminine energy is flowing and dynamic. Its movements cannot be predicted or always explained with a rational mind. This energy is not constrained by social norms because it does not follow any rules other than the guidance that comes from the heart.

What are the traits of masculinity and femininity? ›

Masculinity is seen to be the trait which emphasizes ambition, acquisition of wealth, and differentiated gender roles. Femininity is seen to be the trait which stress caring and nurturing behaviors, sexuality equality, environmental awareness, and more fluid gender roles.

What does healthy feminine energy look like? ›

Feminine energy traits are affiliated with nurturing, love, receptivity, compassion, and care. This 'being' energy is the polar opposite of masculine energy, which revolves around 'doing.

How do you trigger feminine energy? ›

Stretch, dance, run - whatever kind of movement you enjoy - just let your body freely move and get that energy flowing. Feed your senses - Feed yourself a delicious and nurturing meal, listen to moving music, go to an art exhibit, or even just set out some fresh flowers.

How do I unlock my feminine energy? ›

7 Ways to embrace your femininity and unleash your inner goddess
  1. Get your body moving. ...
  2. Allow time for healing, recharging, and self-care. ...
  3. Spend time with other women. ...
  4. Treat yourself to some retail therapy. ...
  5. Make your own pleasure a priority. ...
  6. Book a day for pampering. ...
  7. Do things that spark your creativity.
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What are 4 traits of femininity? ›

Traits traditionally cited as feminine include gracefulness, gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity, though traits associated with femininity vary across societies and individuals, and are influenced by a variety of social and cultural factors.

What are 4 traits of masculinity? ›

Traits traditionally viewed as masculine in Western society include strength, courage, independence, leadership, and assertiveness.

What are the 5 traits of masculinity? ›

The 5 Masculine Instincts
  • Sarcasm.
  • Adventure.
  • Ambition.
  • Reputation.
  • Apathy.


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